Showing posts with label drink. Show all posts
Showing posts with label drink. Show all posts

Tuesday, 13 October 2015

The Trouble is, This Trouble is Ours


I’ve been thinking a lot recently about the drinking culture we have in this country.  I’ve never been a massive drinker, but my current job involves, amongst other things, helping people to cut down on their alcohol, which has made me think of alcohol in a slightly different light in recent months.  I’ve become acutely aware that we have a huge drinking problem here in the UK, and I find this deeply concerning.




 
What’s the Problem?



It’s not unusual to enjoy a drink or two of an evening or weekend.  In fact, you’ll most likely be considered a little bit odd if you don’t.  Most of us would think nothing of having a couple of glasses of wine after work, a few pints on a Friday evening, or even getting absolutely smashed on a Saturday night.  It’s an incredibly normal way to behave, and those who decline to participate are often made to feel a little socially outcast.



Concern starts to creep in when you realise how easy it is to put your health at increased risk through drinking.  Even a few drinks a few times a week can increase the risk of problems like high blood pressure, diabetes and some cancers, not to mention weight gain.  It’s recommended that women drink no more than 2-3 units a day on a regular basis, and men 3-4 units.  Consider that a pint or a glass of wine usually contains something between 2 and 3 units, and it soon becomes clear that the majority of us are drinking more than the guideline amount on a regular basis without batting an eyelid. 



Unless you’re pregnant or driving, you’re likely to be mocked for not drinking, and often bullied into consuming more.  Drinking games are a key source of entertainment for many young people, intake of enormous amounts of alcohol is usually a rite of passage in university sports clubs, and a weekend without alcohol is considered unthinkable by many working people. 



So, as a nation, we’ve become culturally programmed to drink to levels that are almost definitely going to harm our health.  But for me, the main issue is not the mere fact that people are drinking too much.  More importantly, we need to be asking the question: why is this happening?  Yes; alcohol causes health problems, but the way I see is, the main issue is that drinking it is in itself a symptom: a symptom of living in a society where people no longer know how to keep themselves healthy and happy and lead meaningful lives.  I’ve talked before about how modern Westernsociety is not conducive to wellbeing.  Our drinking culture is one of the many manifestations of this problem.  To speak in extremes, our collective obsession with drinking alcohol is a symptom of deep-seated societal unhappiness.





What’s the solution?



This question has a very simple answer, and simultaneously a very complex one!  In simple terms, if unhappiness is the cause of the problem, the solution is to increase happiness at the population level.  If everyone had ways of maintaining their wellbeing without the use of alcohol or other substances, binge drinking would be far less common.



Of course, if the solution really were so simple, we wouldn’t have the problem on our hands in the first place!  The perceived need to drink alcohol arises from a complex range of factors.  Workplace stress, family situations, self-esteem, social pressure, hectic schedules, financial hardship, emotional trauma and lack of knowledge, to name but a few, are all things that contribute to the need to drink.  Take a moment to consider the fact that it is highly socially acceptable to use a substance to deal with everyday stress and emotions, and hopefully you can see why I find this so concerning.




What can we do about it?



There’s actually a lot of good stuff already going on to combat the problem of binge drinking.  The Sober for October campaign encourages people to stop drinking for the month, with a view to raising awareness of the harms of alcohol and helping people to realise how good they can feel for not drinking.  There’s also a wealth of smaller campaigns doing great work on helping people to cut back on their alcohol intake, for instance, My Happy Hour and the Purbeck Pledge in my local area.



Each one of us is the master of our own wellbeing if we give ourselves half a chance to be.  That means that you have the power to make a change to your own lifestyle and improve your health and wellbeing. 



As a starting point, you can learn more about the effects of alcohol and the units and calories in your favourite drinks, find out how risky your own drinking habits are and get support to make a change on the Drinkaware website.  Most importantly, you can figure out and use other pastimes and coping strategies to manage stress, enjoy your evenings and weekends, and become healthier and happier.  Try asking yourself the following questions to explore the possibility of cutting down on drinking.  Why not challenge a friend to do the same?



  • Why do I drink?
  •  What are the pros and cons of drinking?
  • What are the pros and cons of reducing my drinking?
  • What impact might drinking be having on my health and other aspects of my life?
  • How might my life be better if I drank less?
  • How can my friends and family support me to reduce my drinking? 
  • What other things can I fill my time with instead of drinking?
  • How much do I feel I should be drinking each week and how can I work towards this?



Whether you want to go sober for October, reduce your alcohol intake long-term, cut it out completely, learn more or make no changes at all, I hope you’ve found this piece interesting or helpful on some level.  I hope you’ll be joining me on the journey towards a healthier, happier nation.

Tuesday, 23 December 2014

Step Into Christmas!


Christmas fun with Miranda

Welcome to my little, What I Call, Christmas Special blog post (Miranda Hart fans will no doubt appreciate this opening :)).  It’s a time of year for joy and fun, food and drink, family and friends, and appreciating all the good things life and the world have to offer.  Of course those of a certain religious status may find it offensive that I’ve said that, but honestly for me that’s what Christmas is and has been all my life; it’s not that I don’t appreciate the religious origins of Christmas, but I don’t have any qualms with admitting I’m not religious myself.  However, I think some of my own values when it comes to Christmas match the Christian ones: it should be a time for forgiveness, thankfulness and peace; this I hope is something we can all agree on, no matter what our religious backgrounds.




As I’ve already hinted at, for me, spending time with family and friends is pretty much the most important thing about Christmas.  In my last post I spoke about mindfulness, about taking more time to notice what’s going on and how I’m feeling in everyday situations.  This had led me to really think about and take note of the dynamics between people in different types of relationships, and at this time of year when many of us come together with family and friends, I thought it’d be fun to note some of my observations on relationships.




The first is that parents can be so mean and unreasonable to their kids!  When I was at the Track Cycling World Cup a couple of weekends ago (see my post That’sHow a Superhero Learns to Fly), there was a dad sat next to me with his young boy.  The kid managed to spill his lemonade all over the floor, and the dad went nuts at him: “you STUPID boy, I can’t believe you’ve done that, you need to be more careful…!!!”.  Many of us can probably remember being shouted at as kids for spilling things, but observing the situation as an
I've noticed parents shout at their kids for the silliest reasons!
outsider I found this guy’s reaction a little absurd: of course the kid didn’t mean to spill the drink and of course he was trying not to spill it (he surely wanted to drink it, after all).  It seems ridiculous that a parent gets so angry with a child for what is clearly a simple mistake that we all make.  He probably wouldn’t have dreamed of shouting at his friend in the pub for spilling a drink, or at his wife if she’d spilt or dropped something in the house!




I had a similar experience today in M&S where a girl walked past a pile of boxes of Christmas crackers and a couple of them fell over.  Her dad: “WHAT HAVE YOU DONE?  Pick those up; what have you done?!!!”.  She said it wasn’t her that had knocked them over; I’m not sure whether this was the case or not but even if she had, once again her dad’s reaction was so over the top relative to the situation and the damage that had (or more to the point hadn’t!) been done.




Having a laugh with friends: one of life's true joys!
My next observation is how within pairs or groups of friends, you can say and do things which would be completely meaningless or plain weird to an outsider but make perfect sense to you and your friend.  Of course this is the case with in jokes, which we always have to be careful not to use out of context: as a result of a habit of one of my best friends from uni, who I lived with, several years on I find myself tempted to say “good luck; don’t miss” every time someone informs me they’re off to the toilet!  Another great one is how me and another of my best friends from uni can have the following interaction: Me: “Umm…” Her: “Yeah” Me: “Ok” Her: “Cool” and we’ve genuinely had a meaningful conversation with a tangible outcome.  Brilliant!




Another thing I love about friendship is how there are some people you don’t see or even speak to for months or years, and when you do get together it’s like you were never apart.  Believe it or not, until a couple of weeks ago I hadn’t seen either of the girls I live next door to properly for well over a year!  In my defence, myself and one of the other girls had both been living elsewhere for quite a bit of that time, but even so, there’s no excuse for us not seeing each other for so long!  But the amazing thing about my relationship with these girls is that we’re almost like family: I’ve lived in this house (on and off) for twelve years (that’s half my life, since I was twelve years old!), so we’ve kind of grown up together, and undeniably been through a lot as a group.  So when we do see each other we have a lovely time and chat for hours and hours, which makes all the time apart worth it.  Lovely.




We should be kind to ourselves at Christmas without stressing about work or stidies
At this special time of year, I’m making an extra big effort to really appreciate my family and friends.  I’m fortunate enough to have a couple of weeks off work so I really have a lot of time to spend with them, and I’m using mindfulness (see my previous post!) to make the most of it.  Something else I’m using Christmas as a good reason for is simply being kind to myself, which is something I think most of us overlook, not just over the festive period but all year round.  I don’t just mean looking after ourselves by eating healthily and exercising (I’m the first to admit this type of thing largely goes downhill for me over Christmas!) but treating ourselves in a friendly and compassionate manner (for instance not feeling bad about exercise and eating going out the window for a few days!).  Many students, particularly at this time of year, will know the horrible situation of being constantly in one of two less-than-enjoyable states: either studying, or feeling guilty for not studying, which leads to never feeling truly relaxed.  It’s important to schedule in recreation and leisure time whatever else you’ve got going on, and to make sure you switch off those feelings of guilt and really enjoy relaxation time to the max.




Essentially what I’m saying is, the way I see it, Christmas is all about truly enjoying yourself and appreciating life (not that you shouldn’t do this all year round!).  This might mean making some alterations in order to achieve this.  For example, going back to my observations about dynamics between families and friendship groups, if you start to notice certain things that are positive and negative about your own relationships you’ll appreciate the good bits more and have some insight as to how to change the negatives.  Come to think of it, the same can be said for any aspects of life: the more you are aware of your feelings, thoughts and surroundings, the more you can learn about what you need to do to improve your life, and which bits don’t need improving because they’re already good!




To conclude, I want everyone to have a great Christmas and New Year period, and hope for some this post will provide some helpful tips for maximum enjoyment, or at least makes for a good read.  One final tip I’d give is don’t try too hard to enjoy Christmas.  I’ve been guilty of trying to force myself to enjoy things on occasions and it just doesn’t work.  Instead, focus on consciously noticing and being aware, and enjoyment and happiness will naturally follow.




Thanks as always for reading; please make my Christmas extra special by sharing my blog to help to boost my readership .  It’s here to be read by as many people as possible after all; that’s why I write it!  And finally, I’d like to wish all my readers the merriest, happiest and healthiest of Christmases.  Eat, drink and be merry! 

"The consciousness of loving and being loved brings a warmth and richness to life that nothing else can bring"
Oscar Wilde